Fuck Yeah Asexuality

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July 2011

7 posts

Anonymous asked: I do not desire sex. I do desire love and companionship. I enjoy kissing and cuddling, but nothing past that. I don't see myself ever having sex. Do I fall under the asexual umbrella?

June 2011

22 posts

Resources Around Tumblr

I’m trying to compile some of the resources around Tumblr. Please, if you know one that isn’t mentioned here, please leave me a comment in my askbox and I’ll add it! Advice Blogs Asexual Advice LGBTQ Advice Information Blogs Fuck Yeah Aces Demisexuality Ace Watch Ace Reporter Asexual Activism Polisci-Prelaw I am also learning more about Tumblr, so there is this same...

TV Tropes: Asexuality →

Penny: I have to ask: what’s Sheldon’s deal? Is it girls…? Guys…? Sock puppets…? Leonard: Honestly, we’ve been operating under the assumption that he has no deal. Penny: Come on, everyone has a deal. Wolowitz: Not Sheldon. —The Big Bang Theory In most fiction you encounter tropes involving sexuality. You run into occasions such as Everyone Is Gay, No...

Asexuals Push for Greater Recognition →

In a society obsessed with sex, David Jay wants no part of it. Jay, a 26-year-old graduate student at the Presidio School of Management in San Francisco, acknowledges that his lack of interest in sex may seem unusual to many who view intercourse as the epitome of intimacy. But research suggests that about 1 percent of the population may share Jay’s view on sex. And he said that for many...

Coming Out of the Closet →

My discovery of asexuality begins with irony. I had a really huge crush on a friend of mine- all of my friends knew I liked him, and were totally perplexed when I spent an entire year not doing anything about it. Finally, just before he moved away, I got the courage to tell him- but then he asked a question I’ll never forget: “If I liked you, what would you do?” My response was an honest...

Anonymous asked: Hi,
I’ve recently been thinking that I might be asexual. At first I was reluctant to accept the title, which is probably because a girl I used to be friends with always called me asexual as an insult because I wasn’t obsessed with boys like she was.
I was wondering if you know what sort of age people usually realise they are asexual.
Also would someone in my...

Anonymous asked: Hi. I think I might be asexual.. but how do I know for sure? I mean is there like... a list of... "symptoms" or something? Ugh I probably sound ignorant and rude and I'm really sorry I just have no idea what's going on and I need help...

thecrackinthewallhaditcoming asked: Hi I'm Lili, I'm 13 and I identify as asexual. I just wanted to say that I really appreciate this blog. It’s nice knowing that there are people out there that understand how I personally feel about sex. I like reading the stories on here and I like to think that they'll help me deal with peoples' obtuseness towards my sexuality that I'll surely encounter in my life....

Thanks to my Fellow Asexuals and Allies!

First I want to thank everyone for making this such a success. There are 48 followers already, and the blog hasn’t even been up for 3 days. Secondly, I want to point out that anything posted in a link (which is everything except ‘Sharing Time’ and now this post) are not my own words. Edit: 58 followers.

Realizing My Asexuality →

I’ve identified as asexual for about nine years. Since I’m in my early twenties, this is nearly half of my life, and includes all of my teenage years. I remember some of how I came to identify as ace. I remember some of the first conversations that I had before I started using the word asexual — my ex-BFF and I were discussing my emotional state, and a lack of emotional reactions to certain...

The Top Ten Responses to Asexuality →

Asexual. Nonsexual. Antisexual. Celibate. These terms have different connotations depending on who you talk to, and at different times all of them have been applied to me, correct or no. But no matter how you define it, my “condition” can be summed up in one sentence: I don’t want to have sex. Plain and simple. It is not a case of avoiding sex out of fear, or as a result of a ...

Anonymous asked: Do we really make up less than 1% of the population? I know two asexuals other than myself... I don't generally tell people I'm asexual, not because I think it'll meet a bad reaction, but because it doesn't really matter. These two people who have 'come out' as asexual haven't met a bad reaction either- nobody really cared. One of them even has a girlfriend (he...

writeoutoflove asked: I am not asexual, but a good friend of mine is. She was hesitant to come out to family and friends because of what they might say, and I was really surprised at the negative attention some of our mutual friends showed... It saddened me.

But a few months later, her little brother (13-ish) saw her asexuality pride pin on her bag and asked what it meant. They went into a private room...

Sharing Time no.2

Since you liked the last one, I may turn this into a regular thing. It’ll just be tiny excerpts of my life as an asexual fitting into a sexualized world. But there are so many ways of being an asexual that my way isn’t always anyone else’s way, so I really look forward to hearing from the rest of you. I have trouble socializing with people. And it’s not because I’m...

thebaptizedagnostic asked: I kind of appreciate you for dedicating a tumblr account to asexuality. This is awesome.

I (the person who runs this blog) often can’t get people to understand what asexual beauty is for me. I found it best to use this explanation. I was talking with a heterosexual coworker of mine, and I asked him if he thought Michelangelo’s David was beautiful. He said that it was. I then asked him if it turned him on. He got a bit upset then, and said ‘No!’ in a really...

The Power of Talking about Intimacy →

I think I’ve broken the ice. I’ve been ranting about intimacy for a while now, despite the fact that it’s pretty embarrassing, socially awkward and professionally detrimental. I do it because I’ve had this overwhelming sense for the past five years that the asexual community is onto something, that somewhere latent beneath the everyday assumptions that we make about...

Are there asexuals among us? On the possibility of... →

Gay people are often asked by the curious: When did you first realize you were gay?” In my case, I remember undressing my Superman doll—and being terribly disappointed at the result—as well as being motivated to befriend the more attractive boys in third grade. But hormonally speaking, it wasn’t until I was about fourteen that I first looked in the mirror and thought to myself,...

How to be an asexual ally. →

hail-seitan: - Educate yourself and others about asexuality. - Speak up if you hear an asexual being ridiculed or harassed for their orientation. - Explicitly include asexuality and its related identities in sexual orientation-focused groups, workshops, discussions, etc. - Don’t automatically assume that everyone you meet is sexual, even if they seem perfectly comfortable talking or writing...

'We're married, we just don't have sex' →

People wonder why asexuals bother to get together, but Amanda and I have been happily married for nine months now and we’re both still virgins. Some people even think asexuality doesn’t exist. It’s so underrepresented, I can understand why people are skeptical. I was too, even though I was perfectly used to thinking of myself in this way. For years I just thought I was the...